How does a mother cope with a son that she thought was off drugs age (42) but is back on them. On day he is sweet, I love you mom and the next day he is accusing me of talking to his ex boss and telling them to send his check to me.
It is making me so nervous; Iam living with my daughter now and she and my son in law dont want me to answer the phone from my son he gets me so crazy that Iam afraid for my heart I have had one heart attack.
How do I separate the young man that I raised with his adorable smile and hugs for mom from the drug addict that he is.
He says to me 'Mom Iam what Iam it is what it is."
I look at him now and cry;each time the phone rings Iam afraid that he has died from the drugs; cocaine crack.
If any of my GF here has a word of advice please tell me; I know I should have used tough love years agao but he seemed to have straightened out and has worked steady.
Permalink Reply by Z on September 16, 2008 at 12:31pm
Talk to him when he's sober. Don't tell him not to use. Tell him how it makes you feel. Reward him for being sober. Remind him how well he has done. Remind him he doesn't need the pain and
suffering that using will bring to him. Talk to his friends, enlist
their aid.
Thank you my friend; right now he is staying sober and clean he is working and sharing expenses with me he has an apt attached to the house Iam renting. I think my recent heart attack tho mild unerved him and now is not using and is helping me out with money and doing things around the house like taking his money and putting in new carpet and painting. I hope this will last I really think he got shook up and now is watching out for me. hugs for caring